It's common knowledge that gay men are extremely picky when it comes to choosing a spouse. But are our requirements too specific? Of course, most of us would love to date a Ryan Reynolds or Chris Evans, but how likely are we to pass up a chance at an actuality chasing a fantasy?
The Gay filter works like this,
I want a guy who:
Has amazing Abs
Pretty teeth
Nice, Managed Hair
Big Hands
Charming
Funny
"Straight Acting"
Has Money
Is good in bed
Sensitive
The problem with the list above is that it only applies to about 25 percent of the American male population, hetero and homosexual, cutting the gays chance of finding this perfect man in half. So, technically you, fag boy, could meet 100 men and out of them you could POSSIBLY find 12 that would work for you. Sounds good right? 12? That's good enough for me, you think? WRONG! The second thing wrong with the gay filter is that most likely, you, yourself don't fit into that 25%. Which means that if you were to meet 1 of the 12 men that are perfect for you, you are NOT perfect for them. It's the sad, and very inconvenient truth, but you're a big boy now. Wipe your tears and come off your cloud of ridiculous nimbus.
Solution? Why yes, there are several. Firstly, you can wake the fuck up. Chris Evans and Ryan Reynolds are fictional depictions of real men. You have no idea what they may be like in their intimate lives. Setting your standards from hollywood celebs will only leave you lonely or in a relationship built only on physical attraction, which we all know won't last.
Second. Love yourself. Men who need constant affection and self verification through intimacy are prone to making bad relationship based decisions. The best way to find a good man, is to be one yourself. You would not want to date a guy who was unimpressed with himself, or overly insecure. Learn to hold yourself, learn to dine alone, learn to enjoy life alone. Once you're capable of loving your own life, helping someone else love you will be a lot easier.
Thirdly. Decide what's really important to you in a spouse. Detailing too much will cause even the best of men to fall short to your filter. Remember, want only as good as you, yourself, can offer.
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